What place does a dream/vision have in one’s life/relationships?

 “And I know just why you could not come along with me. This was not your dream but you always believed in me”

-Home by Michael Bublé

 Michael Bublé is a famous singer who lives the high celebrity life. Although he wishes he could take his fiancé with him to where ever he travels, he realizes he cannot because she did not dream for this life; he did so he can’t force her to travel with him. He is living out his dream as he’s a worldwide singing sensation but this is not what his fiancé dreamed of.

Everyone has a dream, big or small. Whether you dream of becoming the next big rock star or to pass your Calculus class, you have a dream.

However, these dreams are ones that you have imagined for yourself. When your dreams begin to affect others reams often become your life and affect everyone around you and may alter relationships if those people are part of the dream. In Gatsby’s case, his dream becomes his life and he strives to get Daisy to be in a relationship with him; through the book his relationship with her is not moving forward because Gatsby is attempting to move it backwards to how it was in the past.

Gatsby’s dream was to marry Daisy and since this dream was to obtain her, their relationship became a goal to him since he wanted to return their relationship back to “just as if it were five years ago” (116). This dream became his only goal in life and fuelled him to become rich and successful. Since he was poor and needed to be rich in order to have the same wealth status as Daisy in order to wed her with the permission of her parents, their relationship motivated him to achieve this wealth.

This dream of his became his life and he placed her on a golden pedestal as she merely only became an object to him. He is blinded by the past so she is still perfect in his eyes. She’s beautiful, charming, and has an effortless aura that screams wealth and luxury but she is materialistic and shallow. For example, she only evokes emotion for Gatsby when he shows off his wealth to her and she cries, “it makes me sad because I’ve never seen such-such beautiful shirts before” (98).  He does realize that “she used to be able to understand. We’d sit for hours” (116) and he cannot talk to her like he used to but he is still adamant that she can change back to how she was for him so he thinks to himself, “Can’t repeat the past?’ he cried incredulously. ‘Why of course you can!” (116).

Dedicating his entire life to gaining her back, Gatsby still images Daisy to be the 18 year old girl he loved five years ago. He holds her up to an impossible standard and she is his dream; although she has changed, his standards of her have not. He constantly compares her to her old self and lashes out when she does not behave like she used to. She becomes an object to him and his goal in life it to have her.